While I do not endorse or guarantee the work of others, these resources helped me.
Resources
Love Languages
Learning your stepchildren’s love languages can help you communicate love in the way they will best receive and understand it. I found Chapman and Campbell’s love language principles for children helpful.
Dating a Widower
Abel Keogh’s book, Dating a Widower, may be helpful if you are struggling with widower issues (questioning what is normal dating a widower, feeling like a replacement, being compared to the late wife, etc.). He also moderates a Facebook page and issues weekly videos.